Re-reading my comment (101) it sounds very harsh even though that is not how I mean it to sound. May your prayers be answered and your hopes and dreams become realities.. They seemed to love the tradition and I never received negative feedback. April 24, 2015 in General Discussions. Although, I hate how as a single man, some married women run from me cause they think Im going to try to seduce them or something. Usually chocolate, a plant or flower. So that no woman felt left out. All women should strive to be strong, and can become strong. On the road this week I attend Mother's day services with the fourth ward in St George Utah. Cant we just give praise and gratitude for the atonement, and human goodness and resiliance inspite its adversity and imperfection? We like to celebrate mothers in the Church and we like to ignore fatherhood. THE major Mothers Day talk in Sacrament Meeting in our ward this week, I have forwarded all of this discussion on to him! A small gift for Mothers Day is fine, but if you give chocolate to a diabetic or a piece of pie to someone with gluten intolerance, what have you given? I must let my voice be heard, Oh, great. To find a ward near you, try the Meetinghouse Locator, which will also provide sacrament meeting times, driving directions, and contact information. The deacons hand out small potted plants to all women 12+ years, then the sisters eat cake in Relief Society (served up by the RS presidency.). I dont know how that worked out for him. Yes, the rhetoric has calmed down, but is certainly still present. I do think a lot of Mormon women enjoy talks that validate their efforts at motherhood, and I think some of these talks get interpreted as angel mother talks when theyre really not. It is Mother's Day and yet the day is supposed to about everything about women EXCEPT being a mother. We once had a bishop hand out frozen TV dinners! Make it a FUN day!!! But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. Especially for those women that aren't mothersbut, a big but, these women are mothers to villages, pets, and extended family all the time! This is a tradition of man, and sometimes it is just a bad idea. The perfect hymn for Mothers Day Sacrament meeting. . My mom still to this day says it was the best Mothers Day talk ever. I personally am skeptical of ever looking to people for ideals. Trust her. I dont like the sappy talks about the perfect mothers. Sorry I missed that. How cool someone reading my rambling! So He can be ideal AND real. After the explanation, both seemed excited and accepted the challenge willingly. Why is that or is that just in my ward? Aleah Ingram This year in our ward we are having a missionary farewell for Mothers Daynot the old kind where the new missionary and all his/her family speak, but the new kind where the new missionary will be given a topic. Tony, thanks! Alece 100 it is a bit rich for you to interpret that your comment and that quote by Lewis mean the same thing. Yet, we have a tendency to go to extremes, particularly culturally, forgetting that we are worshiping God, and that we are not God nor expected to be God in this, our mortal state. If my kids are with me on MD I go, but FD is just too painful. The two adult speakers should center their talk on Jesus; if you want, assign a youth speaker to speak on Mothers, the Primary sings a song, and pass out the flower at the end. Although I have the suspicion that he had an ulterior motive of hoping never to be asked to speak again. I remember being confused by a few Mothers Day talks growing up. Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. 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Many times, it seems bishoprics want to put women on a pedestal for a day, while trying not to offend anyone. It was a one day break from the 40 day Lent cycle to give a feast in honor of Mom with cakes and flowers and her grown children visiting from afar. You can also subscribe without commenting. The Puritans werent big on celebrations, so they dropped it when they colonized Massachussetts. Let us take as self-evident that, in reality, not all women are naturally pure or spiritual. You might drift over to what has been considered the rebuttal of Mothers Who Know given at the next conference session by Elder Ballard. Enter your email address to follow BCC and receive new posts by email. Great, and I was just asked to talk on Sunday, I guess I will be very careful. The speaker described how she saw her mothertake stock of the smoking wreckage of her life, humble herself, and begin the heroic and difficult work of transforming her life into something she didnt need to be ashamed of anymore. Father's Day Talk in Sacrament Meeting June 21, 2009. They are there, you just have to do a little digging. Ziff, thank you. It is the essence of who we are as women. Listen to her. Its hard to please everyone. I think its terribly sad that growing up Mormon, I never heard anyone make any serious attempt to talk about Heavenly Mother on Mothers Day. I have no aversion to motherhood being spoken of in church. But as for now no praise deserved but the praze to the heavenly Father. Any Advice? Get plenty HPs and Elders. Im also a High Councilor, who always tries very much not to speak in rose-colored platitudes that, sadly, you associate with High Council speakers. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time? But alas, Mother's Day 11 years ago will forever be known as the day I landed face down on the floor of the chapel, on top of my 3-year-old, in the middle of sacrament meeting, with my skirt flung over my head. After living with me for almost 17 years, hed better get it right! My preference is for a talk focusing on women of the scriptures. Some years it gets a nod, other years the talks are unrelated. I issue a challenge to top this worst Mothers Day sacrament meeting talk. I would say that since Christ is supposed to be the express image of his Father that we do know quite a bit about the Father. This blog post is the result of my musing. Because I know the real story so it is distracting from the fake one that they are giving. I have to say that I was almost offended that there would be an assumption that FD would be a piece of cake. Sacrament meeting is for honoring and remembering the Savior, its not Fathers Day or Mothers Day, its the Saviors Day! But guess what?! I dont need to socialize at church. We go to church to grow closer to the Savior, not to get treats or recognition. They can eat whatever they want, in fact. Crowd-sourcing request each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. My mother was an ideal, and she is schizophrenic, couldnt cook water without burning the pan, never cleaned a thing in the house while we were children, had rebellious to some degree or another, etc. Gods commands I must obey, Thanks. This ordinance is an essential part of worship and spiritual development. At the end of the survey there was a comments box where individuals could leave specific feedback to bishoprics that organize Mothers Day. That bishop that moved his ward away from elaborate gifting was doing the right thing. Special celebrations can and should be held at home within the family. Personally, I go to church to learn about Jesus and Christ like attributes. Why does the church HAVE to be a part of it? Please know that it is worth it then, now, and forever.. My bishop knows where its at, and we always get Dove bars, Milk for those of unrefined taste and Dark for the rest of us. We got a response from172 females and 51 males. Available Now: 2023 Temple Calendar. I dont go to be honored or get a gift. I do think it is easy to understand my point and I appreciate it when others understand my position. 34 Ideas for LDS Sacrament Meeting Talks When People Don't Apologize: Forgiving and finding reconciliation with God Would borrow from Forgiveness + Tribulation, a talk I gave fall 2019. Measure your words with that assumption in mind. I plan to skip church on Mothers Day morning to visit my mother in the home and I will receive my Masters Degree that afternoon! Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. "The ordinance of the sacrament," taught then Elder Dallin H. Oaks in 2008, "makes the sacrament meeting the most sacred and important meeting in the Church." 21 Accordingly, in 2015, Church leaders called for a renewed emphasis on Sabbath worship centered on partaking of the sacrament of the Lord's Supper. There are sins that need confessing; It defines our very identity, our divine stature and nature, and the unique traits our Father gave us.. Watching the Primary children singing to their mothers in Sacrament meeting was the hardest. I just dont like when they push the plant on me after Ive politely declined it. I only mentioned Mothers Day once, and I said how much my mom hated the hypocrisy of Mothers Day, and that we should treat women right every day of the year, not give platitudes one day of the year. What do you think should be handed out for Mothers Day? each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. Next, it is always very specific so as to not offend anyone. The main message I gathered from reviewing this survey is, keep it simple, dont try tohave specific female messages during the meetings, and then serve a fun refreshment in the third hourjust because. Up til now, I have endured going because I thought I had to. In the mean time, please, PLEASE, dont go hunting the sisters. How about we don't celebrate either at church, but celebrate it in our homes with our mothers and fathers? I guess plants are pretty and mothers are pretty. I loved it! Or the best of both worldssend all women to RS and have the chocolate there so you get the women to walk through the door instead of to their cars, and so the kids arent begging for it? She is buried in the same plot as my great-grandmother as well so it was nice to be able to be there with them again. It very gently re-addressed several of the points that were flying in the newspapers and throughout the church in the Mothers Who Know backlash. Not until the 1600s did people start associating the holiday with their own actual mothers (Mothering Day in the UK). You can still give the women the day off. How about honoring our mothers by not just focusing on what they do or have done for us (guilt trip for those that feel they never do enough) but focus on ways the members can help their mothers throughout each stage of their life. I should clarify that my mother (and father) are wonderful and I have no complaints. Can I suggest NOT sending the youth out hunting all women? But I certainly enjoyed the beauty of the whole situation and was very glad to see so many young peole in the Church on Sunday. Gospel Q&A: My Children Have Left the Church & I Worry for Their Souls. Speakers arent assigned to talk on mothers day, there is no gift, no refreshments, no day off from primary. Support Epic Family Fun! The worst talk I ever heard came from a woman who described how her mother used to sit by her during piano lessons. I dont think sacrament meeting is such an inappropriate place to do that, either. LDS Mother's Day Gift Ideas: Great Gifts for LDS Women Mother's Day Cupcake Flower Card Mother's Day Gift Ideas: 10 Ways to Show Your Love on Mother's Day Mother's Day Chapstick Idea Mother's Day Questionnaire & Gift Idea Mother's Day Gift Idea: Candy Necklaces Mother's Day Treat Tags Mother's Day gift idea: Candy Flower Bouquets Categories Or any talk. And chocolate. And, as your mother, I will miss the delicious pie during a relaxing third hour of church. Being Mother's Day, that meant the soft seats up front were filled with grandmothers and other maternal figures visiting for the weekend, which meant latecomers like the Lemons got metal seats in the back this week. The other auxiliaries are free to do something, its just the bishopric that doesnt. Why in the church is there such a strong, almost secular aversion to motherhood? Sadly, though, it probably caused a lot of pain to the listeners. No fuss, no muss. Why in the church is there such a strong, almost secular aversion to motherhood? I know that traditionally it has been men and children who honor mothers. Sabbath Day Scriptures Scripture References Doctrine and Covenants 59:9-12 Scripture Study Resources Topical Guide, "Assembly for Worship" I havent had a bad Mothers Day since I divorced my ex and the day stopped being about making my kids miserable so that he could appear to be a good husband. Today the sacrament is an ordinance in which Church members partake of bread and water in remembrance of Jesus Christ's atoning sacrifice. The water is a reminder that the Savior shed His blood in intense spiritual suffering and anguish, beginning in the Garden of Gethsemane and concluding on the cross. Please add to the possibility of what LDS women are dealing with: they didnt have the best mothers themselves, they are the adoptive parents of mothers who, for whatever reason couldnt be a mothers, (adoptees and foster children or adults that have been in foster care could be particularly vulnerable as well); they work outside the home and love it, they work outside the home and hate it, they cant stand being mothers, the list could go on and on. It is even worse when women are so enthused with Father's Day that they want to ignore it completely - as in absolutely not mention it. I struggled with infertility for nearly a decade. I know of no better answer to [the] foul practices that confront our young people than the teachings of a mother, given in love with an unmistakable warning.. Sorry for the sacrilege I think all women want massages but not sure the church is the right place for it. I feel for how it hurts people to attend church and the sorrows they bear. This is something better done away with. Lewis moments ago which speaks directly to those thoughts: Ere the sun goes down. It might be that it was a holiday originally conceived by the US Socialist Party and propagated by the Soviets. Im sure that attendance in RS would be higher on that day though. I get really tired of hearing the stripling warrior passages on Mother's Day. The talks are mostly bearable (though no picnic), but the worst is when the youth would spread out in search of women who were not holding whatever flower or chocolate. In the spirit of the quib in #21 we should just cancel these commercial holidays. Ive never objected to any Mothers Day program, and in my ward, all women get a gift, married, single, divorced, widowed, with or without children. Or should we just not celebrate anything or any role that a person may fulfill in life? I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that . Aiming for Heaven is again looking to the sinless for examples, not to an episode of Leave it to Beaver. Im sort of hoping that the person before me goes too long and I have to wrap up with my testimony. Just sharing those times with women in the scriptures and what we can learn from them - and NOT have a focus on mothers.